Do we care to understand?

Parents don't try to understand their kids and those kids care little to understand their parents as well. Parents usually try to dictate their kids saying, "Don't do this, don't do that, do what I say." But our innate tendency is to rebel against anything imposed. The parents can say to their kids, "Hey you can do better if you do this way or that way, I suppose" or "It's fine what you are doing but you can get better result if you do it differently." It's natural that children would commit mistake. But only accusations without proper solutions might force the children to think that parents just criticise. At some point they may also regard themselves as problem children if parents continuously find faults. I think it is very much dangerous for the healthy psychological development of the children.

"And they lived happily ever after." Unfortunately these words exist only in the pages of fairy-tell books only. Yes almost all of us sincerely want to lead a happy conjugal life but how honest are we? That is the question. Rather than opening our heats to our counterparts and understanding each other deeply from the very beginning, we tend to act like seasoned actors and actresses before marriage. After marriage, real identity begins to surface which in many cases hard to accept for each other. It's like waking up suddenly while floating like a feather in the dream world.

The recent clash between Muslims and non-Muslims around the world is nothing but the consequence of misunderstanding, in my view. As long as this misunderstanding exists, terrorism related to Muslims is likely to prevail. 100 per cent dependency on military intervention to combat terrorism will only work as fuel for the flame and not as fire extinguisher. Many innocent Muslims of various nationalities were deported from the US as a result of the move to combat terrorism within and beyond US soil. In many cases standard legal procedures were not followed and those deportees were often deprived of necessary legal aid.

A careful attention will reveal that the western media are using the word "Islamic" before words like terrorists, militants, and fundamentalists frequently instead of using the term "Muslim" these days. But we all know that there is no problem with Islam, problem lies in the interpretation of Islam. If Islam is misinterpreted, it is not the problem of Islam rather it is the problem of that particular interpreter. So, actually this practice of generalisation will provoke antipathy towards an ideology rather than its followers. At the same time, we have to think about the suicide bombers too. Is Bin Laden's way the path that Islam shows?

So, it is understanding again.