Marriage crisis: Who is responsible?

By Naomi, Department of Law, DU, Dhaka
12 November 2003, 18:00 PM
My letter refers to the letter "Marriage crisis" written by a citizen on 26 Octobor in 'To the Editor". The writer has suggested to establish a matchmaking institution to solve this crisis . But will a match making institution resolve this problem? Actually the marriage crisis is partly a result of the prejudice of our parents.

It is only natural that a university going girl or a boy may fall in love and choose a life partner. But the problem begins when they are in a stage where they are suppose to inform their parents about the relationship. Because our parents at once start measuring the everything -- whether their boy or girl will be properly benefited from this marriage or not . If the answer is negative, most of the parents become very strict with the 'no'. It is really pathetic that till today there are many parents who consider 'district' (the district you originally belong) a major deciding factor for their son's or girl's marriage. They do not want their child to marry someone from another district.

But we, who are born and brought up in the city, do not have any favour or fear towards districts. I have seen many couples who had to give up their dreams of marrying the one they love only because their parents did not allow it.

If our parents become more liberal and progressive, certainly this marriage crisis will be solved; partly if not fully.